Getting Married in the Cathedral
From the Cathedral Rector, Monsignor Anthony Mancini
Dear Engaged Couple:
I am happy that you have chosen the Cathedral of Saints Peter and Paul for your wedding. I hope that our beautiful Cathedral will provide a holy and meaningful setting for the sacred ceremony of your marriage. Your wedding day is a very solemn occasion. When you recite your vows before God and the community of faith, you are entering into a covenant of love not only with each other, but also with Jesus Christ and your Church community. You are proclaiming publicly that He will be the Lord of your life together, and His love will be the model of your own love for one another.
There is a procedure to be followed, which this special page on our Cathedral website will outline. We ask you to read this carefully, and if you have any questions please do not hesitate to ask us. May your wedding at the Cathedral of Saints Peter and Paul be one of the happiest and most beaufiful memories of your life.
Schedule and Pricing
You are asked to contact the Cathedral Rector at least one year in advance of the date on which you wish to marry. This requirement is vitally important in order to ensure that the date you are requesting is available. It will also provide sufficient time to prepare spiritually for this vast change in your lives. Wedding dates will be scheduled only after the priest or deacon has met with both of you, received the necessary documents from you (such as a new copy of your baptismal record, letter of freedom to marry), and arranged for your participation in the marriage instruction programs. You should secure a date with the Cathedral before making commitments with caterers, a reception hall, and so forth.
Weddings are usually scheduled on Saturdays and Sundays, although they may also be scheduled on weekdays. Please understand that there may be other ceremonies following yours, so the Cathedral and parking lot must be clear no more than ninety minutes after the ceremony is scheduled to begin. Because of these and other time contstraints, it is of the utmost importance that your ceremony begins on time. Be forewarned, if you are late the priest may start the ceremony without you, or he may cut out parts of the ceremony. Please, save everybody embarrassment, and be on time!
The fee assigned to your wedding helps defray the costs for the Cathedral, the sacristan, the custodians, the business office, as well as the cost of utilities, such as heat, air conditioning, and electricity. A non-refundable deposit of $150 is expected at the time of booking of your wedding.
Policies and Procedures
All couples being married at the Cathedral must participate in pre-marital counseling. This is normally done through the Diocese of Providence. Details of marriage preparation through the Diocese of Providence may be found here. You may also contact the Cathedral office at (401) 331-2434.
The ceremony we provide is both joyful and reverent as befits this important step in your lives. Several options within the wedding service can be discussed with the officiating priest. Examples of such options include: family members or friends may give one of the readings, or prayers of the faithful. Family members or friends may present the offertory gifts. All options must be discussed with and approved by the officiating priest. Due to time constraints, there are to be no receiving lines at the Cathedral of Saints Peter and Paul.
Flowers and Decorations
The following policies regarding the use of flowers and other decorations in the Cathedral are based on safety, common sense, and courtesy, with the goal of preserving the inherent beauty of the sanctuary, and promoting the sacred service that we consider each wedding ceremony to be. We ask that wedding parties and their florists keep these guidelines in mind when planning for floral arrangements.
Placement of Flowers and Decorations
Floral arrangements may not be placed on the altar or in any areas where accessibility is required. Several options for placements of flowers include: in front of the main altar, on the high mass altar, or in front of the pulpit. Feel free to ask any Cathedral staff member for assistance with floral arrangment placement. Please note that nothing may be placed on the floor of the Cathedral; including runners, flower petals (real or silk), or any other items. For safety reasons the aisles must remain clear at all times.
The use of a unity candle as part of the wedding ceremony is permitted with the celebrant's approval. It must be provided by you or your florist and be placed on the table that the Cathedral will provide in the sanctuary in front of the pulpit. The florist must protect all surfaces from wax.
Pew markers such as bows or candles (which must be enclosed in glass) are permitted and must be attached with a floral/pew clip over the top of the pew, or tied on to the pew with a ribbon. No pins, nails, tape, glue or other adhesives are permitted.
Removal of Flowers and Decorations
All items brought in by the florist, decorator, or wedding party must be removed immediately following the post-wedding photographs. The Cathedral is not responsible for items not removed, and has no place to store them. The florist is accountable for any damage to the Cathedral. Floral arrangements from your wedding may also be donated to the Cathedral for use in our Sunday worship services.
Anything deemed to be a hazard to the wedding party, their guests, or the Cathedral environment may not be used either inside or outside of the Cathedral of Saints Peter and Paul. The tossing of rice or birdseed, as well as releasing balloons or birds, is not permitted.
Photography and Videography
Weddings can be held in a variety of settings, but the choice of the Cathedral has some distinct implications. We consider the ceremony to be a sacred service where the bride and groom pledge themselves to one another in the presence of God. Our policies regarding photography and videography -- both amateur and professional -- emerge from this conviction. The bride and groom are required to read these policies and to provide a written copy to their photographer and videographer. Any questions may be directed to the Cathedral staff.
No photographer or videographer is allowed on the floor of the sanctuary or in the sacristy during any part of the service.
Please limit flash photos during the ceremony (as not to cause a distraction).
Flash photographs are allowed before and after the ceremony.
Photographers will have limited access to the balcony. They must make a request to the security guard prior to the service beginning.
The operator is asked to limit movement during the ceremony, except in the balcony, as not to cause a distraction.
Photographs of the wedding party may be taken after the wedding ceremony, if time is available.